I have a few core friends who consistently 'have my back' as the saying goes. It's to an extreme level. If I robbed a bank and told them about it they would probably say (1) they never liked that bank anyway and (2) could they help me hide the money?
My feelings were hurt yesterday and after church I spoke with someone I considered to be a friend and who had witnessed what happened. I asked for her opinion, and, boy, did she ever give it to me. This is not the first time she has done this, either. A few months ago she asked how I was doing through the busy holiday season and when I told her about a situation that had me concerned, she was brutally (and kind of unfairly) honest that time as well.
So who is the better friend? The one that has your back despite the situation or the one who says it like it is and might, in turn, help you improve? I am trying to recognize the very real benefits of having such a friend. But, I have to admit, sometimes I prefer the ones that have my back, no matter what.