Sunday, April 19, 2009

Get Out Of The Way!


One of the things that I am struggling with as Molly gets bigger is staying out of the way as she develops relationships with her sisters.


I'm sure that she thinks that Macey is nice, but Molly LOVES Emma. Emma can always make her laugh and smile. I realize how important that relationship is, and I want it to get stronger, but sometimes Emma does not know her own strength. She pushes too hard or gets too much in Molly's face.


Is there a way to encourage them to be best friends but stay an arms length away?

Friday, April 17, 2009

Goodbye, My Friend


When Garry and I had been married a few months, we adopted a dog from the nearby shelter: Quincy. Since we did not have any kids, Quincy was our world. He went on trips with us, got walked probably five times a day, went to doggy day care once a week. It was a good life.

As we had more kids, Quincy fell further and further down the totem pole. It got to the point where the only exercise he really got was when he was in the backyard. And since he always seemed to be under someone's foot in our tight quarters, he spent a lot of time on his pet bed or near the window.

He had a little collar to keep him out of the kitchen, but one morning either the batteries were dead or he decided that it was worth it, and he got into a few things. The worst was the apple juice. He got the lid off and there was juice everywhere!

Garry and I had talked often about finding Quincy a new home where there was another dog and more room to run around. But I always fought giving him away because I saw pets as a stewardship, one that you just did not get rid of when things got tough.

After the apple juice incident, I called my parents: the originators of the "pets are a responsibility" stand. I told them that I was overwhelmed, and would I be a horrible person if I gave Quincy away?

My father, Mr. Responsibility, told me that there were five to ten decent people in the world, and I was one of them. No, they would not think that I was horrible, just that I was overwhelmed.

Clearly my father does not know very many people. But for the first time I got this little glimpse of how my Heavenly Father views me. I always heard that He wanted me to just do my best, but I never completely believed it. But here was my Dad telling me that it was okay, I just had to do my best and if life was a little more manageable without the stress of a dog, so be it.

We found a family in Northern Maryland that agreed to take Quincy in. They have two kids, live on a farm with a lot of animals, and they have a ton of room. The kids are homeschooled and so they can love on Quincy all the day long. We hope that it will be heaven for him.

I still miss my dog. I am not proud of how ignored he was over the past few years, but I am proud that we made the tough decision to make his life a little better. When he left I just cried and cried and thought, "I should have never got upset over the stupid apple juice."

Goodbye, my friend.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Anniversary

This year we shared our Anniversary, April 12th, with Easter. But Garry made the day special by planning a trip to Hershey, PA. Who knew that my own personal heaven was a mere 150 miles away?
We took the girls to Chocolate World on Sunday and then headed back to the hotel, Hershey Hot Chocolates in hand!


On Monday I went to the Hershey Spa! You check in, get a comfy, heavy robe, slippers and taken to one of three waiting rooms. I mainly hung out in the Quiet Room because it had hot chocolate, chocolates, chocolate muffins. . .heaven. I thought that the slippers just came in "small", "medium" and "large" and so I lied about my shoe size! And felt stupid the rest of the morning, hobbling along!
The first step of the spa was a shower where you stand (in a swimsuit) in a circular room with all these jets coming from all angles and then one of the employees takes a power hose up one leg, up your back, down the other leg. And I just kept thinking, "Didn't a lady get turned into Child Protective Services for doing this to her daughter?"


After a stop to the Quiet Room, I had a milk & honey bath. They had lights in the bathtub that were synchronized with the music. Too fun. And on the side of the tub were more Hershey kisses. I ate 'em. Garry said they were probably just decoration, but why risk it?

Finally I had a cocoa massage. I made the mistake of talking to my massage therapist the whole time. I should have just shut up and tried to relax. It was still lovely.

After I ate a ton more Hershey Kisses and picked up another Hershey Cocoa. Garry picked me up with the girls and Macey asked if they were nice to me. We are not apart very often, and I guess she worries about me like I worry about her when she's in school.

Monday, April 13, 2009

Happy Easter!

We had a wonderful Easter this year! Here are some pictures from Easter morning.


Molly's little "First Easter" outfit had little bunny feet. Too cute. She played with her feet most of the day. Loving this baby!

Saturday, April 11, 2009

Bunny or no Bunny?


I think that I was ten before I found out that there was a segment of the population that believed in an Easter Bunny. We never had an Easter Bunny in our house; my mother strongly believed that Christmas had been harmed through commericialization, and she was not going to allow "them" to ruin Easter, too.

I have been inconsistent with my own decision on the Easter Bunny. It's fun to have the girls look forward to the holiday, but they do not realize that there is more behind Easter than the hope of a chocolate bunny in their basket. Should I follow in my Mom's footsteps or have an Easter Bunny?

This year we have had an Easter Bunny. I must admit, I used it to encourage Macey in her long-suffering potty training. If she would just do better, I bet that the Easter Bunny would bring her a Tinkerbell dress!

Yesterday it all came back to haunt me. We were taking the girls to go see the Easter Bunny on Good Friday. Not the best of ideas. The line was very long, and I was hungry. Standing in line forever was not what I wanted to do.

"Girls," I said, "The line is really long. Maybe we should just come back later."

Emma panicked. "No!" she cried! "If we do not see the Easter Bunny we will not get anything for Easter!" I was trapped, and I had only myself to blame.

Friday, April 10, 2009

Ouch!

I freely admit that I am not a fashionista. I truly have litte, if any, fashion sense. It's just not that important to me. Right now I just want to be comfortable. And if that comfort comes in jeans and a t-shirt or another blue sweater, so be it.

But lately I have been reminded that my fashion sense really is poor.

It all started with Macey. I was taking Emma and Macey to school last week and she saw another one of the Moms in a purple, colorful shirt going into the school. Macey sharply inhaled and exclaimed, "Mom, she looks BEAUTIFUL!" Wow, clearly I need to work in a little color into my wardrobe. I headed straight to the store and started looking for anything with color. It'd be great if my three year old thought I looked beautiful!

Then last Saturday Garry was cleaning out the garage. We made a big pile to take to the Salvation Army, and I started taking a look at what Garry had put in the pile. There was every shirt I had ever gotten him for his birthday or Christmas. It was like a shirtistory of our time together, now heading off to a new home. Ouch.

Calling him on it, I asked, "Why are you giving away all of the clothes I've given you?"

"I kept the black sweater," he answered.

Well, that's somehing.

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Plead The Fifth

Garry just finished painting the second floor of our townhouse on Tuesday night. Wednesday morning I was feeding Molly while the girls were watching Mulan II when I looked over at one of the newly painted walls and saw deep, dark scribbles all over it.

I was shockoed because my girls rarely scribble on the walls and I could not believe that they would do it the morning after it got painted.

I put Molly down and demanded that both girls report to the scene of the crime.

"Alright, who did it?" I asked.

They both denied doing it and after repeated questioning were not turning on each other, either.

Finally, Emma could not take the pressure.

"Macey did it!" she said.

I thought it was Macey. Emma usually draws people and faces and this was just plain old scribble.

"Macey, did you draw on the wall?"

"No!" she said. But she was getting nervous. Her eyes kept shifting from her artwork, to her feet, to my angry face, back to her feet.

"Macey, did you use a pen or a pencil?" I asked.

"Pencil," she answered.

BUSTED.